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Despite only seeing single mothers portrayed on TV and in movies as frumpy, over-worked women only a deeply kind, "good" person could find hot and appealing, I was totally surprised (and thrilled) when I realized that just because I was a single mom didn't make me any less desirable.
In fact, it made me more appealing to the right kinds of partners.
Dating after divorce is tricky too, and I’ve found some things I think are good indicators of how whole a person is, and how ready they are for a healthy relationship.
Sure, your dating profile says something like, “Let’s be friends first and see where that takes us.” But most people I meet are really hoping that friendship takes us to the next wave of affection. We have found our own way out of the desert of depression and despair. Their divorce is still too painful, or their relationship with their ex is still too volatile. If, however you begin to think your shit is sufficiently together to date again, some new boundaries are in order.
I remember when I got divorced, the online dating thing had really started to come out of the closet. Quite frankly, I felt that it was like shooting fish in a barrel.
I remember one weekend, I kid you not, I had eight dates over four days.
But being in a serious relationship as a single mom has taken so much patience and flexibility — patience and flexibility I didn't know I had.
I never realized how important trust — not just between my partner and me — would be, especially for my children.
Now that I'm divorced, dating as a single mom in my late 20s is an entirely different beast.
Even under duress, I am showing how I can remain calm, and make strong and positive decisions. Especially in the early stages of a new relationship. And often this trauma causes us to revert to old and unhealthy defense mechanisms. I have seen both men and women who were WAY to enmeshed with their children.
And of course, as a divorced, and now-single parent, I am going to do everything I can to take care of my kids needs. Maybe the kid was a brat who was completely undisciplined.
That relationship ended rather abruptly and it wasn’t because of anything between me and her.
I started to see things within her children that were impacting my kids from a behavior prospective and knew that it wasn’t going to get any better for her, so the relationship ended.